A girl is not born weak.
She is taught to be.
From the moment a girl child is born, society begins shaping her mind, not loudly, but subtly. Through everyday words, expectations, and restrictions, girls are conditioned to believe they must be quieter, smaller, and more accommodating than boys. Over time, this conditioning becomes so normal that it is rarely questioned.
Learning to Be Silent
A boy is encouraged to speak his mind.
A girl is told to “behave.”
A boy’s anger is seen as confidence.
A girl’s anger is labelled disrespect.
From childhood, girls are rewarded for obedience and politeness, while their curiosity and assertiveness are discouraged. Slowly, they learn that expressing themselves can make them “difficult,” and silence feels safer than honesty.
Protection That Turns Into Control
Parents often justify restrictions on girls in the name of safety. While protection is important, it frequently crosses into control. Girls are told where not to go, what not to wear, and how not to act without being taught how to stand strong in the world.
Fear becomes part of their upbringing. Instead of confidence, girls grow up cautious. Instead of freedom, they inherit limitations.
Marriage as the Ultimate Goal
Perhaps the most damaging lesson girls are taught is that marriage is their final destination. Education, ambition, and dreams are treated as optional useful, but not essential.
Girls are raised to adjust, compromise, and fit into someone else’s life. Society benefits from this narrative, because a woman trained to sacrifice rarely questions injustice.
Why Society Needs Women to Doubt Themselves
A woman who believes she is weak is easier to control.
A woman who fears judgement is easier to silence.
By convincing women that strength is unfeminine and independence is rebellion, society protects its comfort. Emotional labour, unpaid work, and endless compromise are expected from women without recognition or resistance.
This is not accidental. It is systemic.
The Truth Girls Are Rarely Told
Girls are not fragile.
They are resilient.
Girls are not meant only to adjust.
They are meant to lead.
Strength does not make a woman arrogant.
Voice does not make her disrespectful.
Choice does not make her selfish.
Unlearning the Conditioning
Empowerment does not mean turning girls into something else. It means undoing what they were wrongly taught about themselves.
The moment girls stop apologising for their existence, the system begins to shake.
At SheLit, we believe change begins with awareness. When girls grow up knowing they are complete, capable, and powerful, society is forced to evolve.
Because a girl was never weak
she was only told she was.